Before you get “here,” remember that it took time to get “there.”
As you navigate your corporate career, it always takes time to find your feet and make your bones, so to speak. At first, it’s when you are brand new in your career and learning the ropes. You start gaining experience and eventually in a year, or sometimes more, you are finally a master in your domain. Do you recall how long it took for you to have the confidence to speak out to anyone about your expertise? What did it take to get there?
I launched into life with an educational background in commercial art (yeah, I know). I went into art school wanting to do what I love and get paid for it. I came out of school learning that competition was fierce, and pay was just a notch above poverty wages for a long time. I was disappointed but didn’t admit defeat right away, but I cannot lie that I wasn’t disillusioned just a little. Well, make that a lot.
I learned a year into it that clerical jobs paid 20% more than I was making. I was the top typist in my high school class, so I jumped on the secretarial train and rode that for several years. Going from clerk to customer service to administrative assistant, I’d reached my ceiling. Was this all there was to me? No, it wasn’t, because I was about to be made an offer had to refuse. My company was moving all of our operations to another state. Here is my plot twist. This plot twist was about to change my entire career.
Knowing that my job would end in a year, I was faced with plenty of time to find something new or stick it out for a severance package and intended uncertainty. I was convinced to audition for a role teaching some new applications that were taking over: Lotus Notes and WordPerfect. Yes, I was an active participant in the Windows and MS Office invasion.
After teaching for a few years and building my capacity to the ability to teach 32 different courses, the onset of online learning was becoming popular with these products. I had to morph again. This time, it was in the corporate realm. I worked my way from facilitating there to later developing courses and then building training departments. Never be afraid of a plot twist! Mine took me to new experiences and learning opportunities. Had I never had that happen, I might never have realized my potential.
The point here is acknowledging that it takes time with every new start, be it a new job, a new profession, or a new career. It takes time to adapt and find your rhythm. Never be intimidated by plot twists in life. It may be precisely what introduced you to your next path. Network marketing is no different from a new job on your old career path.
Bring back your confidence
It takes time to become an expert, so put your energy into building that knowledge to knowing where to find the answers. The next step is knowing all of the answers, and that is where your confidence will begin to develop. Once you have it, don’t be afraid to use it.
I remember a pivotal meeting I attended with all four C’s; that would be the CEO, the CFO, the COO, and the CTO with me and my Vice President boss. My title had no acronym, so among those in the room, I considered myself quite insignificant, so I kept quiet and polite. When we got back to our department, I had all kinds of ideas for my VP to present to “the C’s.”
I remember this next part of the story so vividly because it completely changed the way I behaved going forward. My VP looked at me and asked: “Why didn’t you say that in the meeting?” My answer was that I didn’t feel it my place to speak up in a room of such titles, and she put me right in my place in a good way: “I hired you because you have an expertise that our company was lacking and because this meeting is about that exact subject. I want you to always speak up about your specialty no matter who is in the room. They don’t know what you know – remember that.”
I took those words of wisdom forward in that company and many other companies throughout my career. I met the occasional executive that believed I should be seen and not heard, but I didn’t know that until after I was already seen AND heard.
As you dig into network marketing, just like your corporate career, confidence comes with knowledge and experience, so take advantage of each learning opportunity. Next, you will push yourself outside of your comfort zone, and eventually, feel comfortable again. That is your confidence, and it found its way back to you.
You have control
I have found in my own life experiences of plot twists (more than I mentioned here), that there are two kinds of people.
First, are the people who live their life as a perpetual victim of their circumstances. They let every plot twist dictate their feelings. They next allow their emotions to hold them back. Hold onto the word “allow” for a minute.
Second, are the people who accept the pivots in life and open their eyes to new possibilities. These people choose to ride that plot twist like a phoenix and reinvent themselves.
Which one are you?
I asked you to hold onto the word “allow.” I did so because of this fact: Even though you cannot control the circumstances or people that come your way, you do (and always did) have complete control over how you react at what comes at you. That brings me to re-phrase that question to: Which one do you choose to be?
Remind yourself of your power of choice with each plot twist in life. Choose to accept your new circumstance. Choose to learn from it. Choose to change your path back to forward momentum.
Choose your value – and stick to it
I have two parts to value. First, is with your confidence, you know the value of your expertise. People will respect you for it, in hopes that they will learn from your knowledge and experience. The minute you discount that value, such as reducing your price or rate, they will also reduce the value they see in you.
Second is controlling how people treat you. In knowing your value, your confidence will bring an expectation of respect. As an entrepreneur now, nobody owns you. They never owned you in the corporate world either, even though they may have acted as they did. Allow your confidence to shine through as a person who has the knowledge, experience, and wisdom that others desire, and use that to your advantage.
Full steam ahead
You have full knowledge of yesterday and tomorrow is still a mystery. What will you do today? What is your CHOICE? Remember that you worked hard to get where you were in the corporate world, and you will work hard to succeed in network marketing. The difference is your network that you can observe and absorb, and then model yourself in the same direction of success.